Every other week my nanny finds an excuse to skip Mondays.
Who likes Mondays.
Thing is I have therapy on Mondays and if the nanny doesn’t show up I have to cancel my therapy too as nobody is here to watch my extremely needy kids.
This day started bad. Toddler woke up screaming a few times thinking there was a snake in bed. Ok.
I woke up tired.
Husband had already left.
Today was the first day of a new Zoom schedule for older. Yes, because Zoom is not already messed up as it is they decided to change teachers and the entire schedule 2 months before the end of the school year. Brilliant. Absolutely brilliant.
My son has anxiety and adjustment disorder which is pretty much self explanatory.
He did NOT adjust well at all.
He was supposed to meet the teachers this morning at 8.35 and he missed it, he barely had breakfast, he had a math test, he was supposed to meet the school psychologist at 1 pm and he forgot about that too and I was in the basement doing laundry so I didn’t hear my phone ringing or my reminder go off.
Has been a challenging day for me.
Plus I am brainstorming ways to make money as I feel husband doesn’t appreciate my work as a stay at home mom but YOU try to take pictures while kids keeps on calling you for any no reason.
Kids and parents are not meant to spend so much time together I was told by my son’s social worker. And she is damn right. I can’t handle this.
I have 2 kids with 2 different needs. Both needy for different reasons. One has anxiety the other is a toddler which clearly needs more attention but not exactly, sometimes older needs more attention than toddler.
Bottom line, it’s a mess. And I am not in such a great state of mind myself. I get overwhelmed and I can’t function anymore.
Older just asked me for orange juice.
He sits behind his freaking laptop asking for food or drinks all day. He said he was hungry, I told him to get his butt off the chair and get himself a snack. I hate, despise snacks so much.
I grew up eating 3 meals and 1 small snack after school.
My toddler can snack all day long, I hate it so much.
So now I am hiding upstairs and my older is calling me asking me for carrots. Yes, I appreciate that he wants a healthy snack but I can’t, I just can’t, it’s too much for me. I need to get away from them. They need me all the time.
I think some mothers thrive of this feeling of being needed all the time and that’s why they can handle many kids, because they want someone to always rely on them and need them.
I can’t! I just can’t! I can barely take care of myself. I want to do something for ME but I don’t even know WHAT I want to do for me.
Someone asked me what I do to make myself happy. The honest truth is nothing. I have no hobbies, nothing I enjoy doing that makes me feel better.
The only time I have to think about ME, about what I can sell, what I can make by hand and sell… is late at night when the kids are finally asleep, and by then I am exhausted too as it’s usually 9.30 and sometimes 10 pm.
Even when the nanny is here do you think the kids stop calling me? Nope, they call me all day long, they constantly need something, can be reassurance, can be a cookie, can be a nag, can be an anxiety attack, can be a tantrum, I must be there at all the times to attend to them.
My nanny is not really a nanny, is more like a messy cleaning lady who doesn’t speak English but loves kids. I mean I have to be home too, she wouldn’t be able to handle both boys for a long time.
Since toddler was born I always had help. My mother was a huge help and we had the nanny. Obviously husband says that toddler has tantrums because there are always too many people around him doing whatever he asks/needs. He wouldn’t think that’s his personality, clearly it’s someone’s fault and that someone is me obviously.
I don’t feel appreciated as a stay at home mom. I always wanted to be a stay at home mom but I feel like I have to do something else to feel appreciated.
But how can I work in this environment.
I can’t especially if I have no help.
I am so tired. I still have to give them dinner and finish doing laundry.
I swear even when my nanny is here I feel like I am running all day doing things around the house but if you ask me what I did I can’t explain it but I did a ton of stuff.
I am trying to sell or give away or throw out anything that we haven’t used in years.
I found like 100 shopping bags from various stores, my mom used to keep them all, she liked them, some are pretty, I agree.
I kept some and threw some out.
Unfortunately husband saw the ones I threw in the garbage in the garage and took them out. How can I throw out stuff when I live with a horder??? He explained that he needs them to take stuff to the office so he won’t need to bring the bag back. I can already see the pile of bags accumulating in his office.
I have to throw stuff out when he is not home clearly.
I gave away 1 full bag of my old clothes, trying to sell 2 full bags of clothes I haven’t worn in years but they go so slow. Kids clothes seem to go a bit faster.
I keep on finding stuff I can sell and I put them on Ebay. I thought that with the traffic Ebay has my stuff should go pretty fast but it hasn’t worked that way unfortunately.
I thought of buying stuff on Aliexpress for cheap and resell it on other platforms but can’t find a good niche.
I thought of making papercut “home blessings” which I can sell for a good amount as hand made stuff is particularly appreciated in the US but I have never done it and I have to practice. I know I am capable but I never tried! Plus my cousin does it and I wouldn’t want to steal work from him.
I really don’t know what to do but I really want to make money somehow.
This blog is time consuming and gets me no income unfortunately but it’s a way for me to get my thoughts down and out. I wish I would get some comments though so I wouldn’t feel like I am talking to myself all the time.
Anyway, my older has been yelling “carrots” for the past 30 minutes, after yelling “orange juice” for 1 hour and when I made him fresh orange juice he didn’t drink it.
This is my life.
Someone today asked me what I like about this world. My answer was nothing.